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I'm 18 and a virgin. I feel like I have to lose my virginity as soon as possible because I'm getting older. But the thing is, I don't have anyone to lose it with. I mean someone I care and preferably a virgin too. I don't want to just hook up with anybody because I might regret it. I feel pressured. I'm in college, and everybody's doing it except for me. I can definitely say that I'm not ugly. I dated this one guy for like 2 years. He was waiting til marriage and I wasn't but I didn't mind not having sex because I was almost certain that I had him and we were gonna lose it to each other. Apparent, it didn't happen. I want to lose it with someone important to me but I don't have anyone. I want to wait for the right person but I don't think he is coming. I need your advice. I need to hear anything from you guys that will uplift my spirit. Do you think it's unlikely to find a virgin guy, 18 y.o. or older?

You should be proud that you haven't just had sex with someone for the heck of it. Don't change that now! There is no reason to give up your virginity just so you can say you've "done it".

You shouldn't think of your virginity as something that you "lose". It's a gift that you can give to one person. Only one! Think long and hard about who is special enough to receive that gift from you, because once you've given it away you don't have the opportunity to present that very special gift a second time. The gift that says "you're special enough for me - and I'm special enough that I deserved to wait for the right guy".

Just because everyone else is doing it shouldn't make you feel like you have to. Who would you have more respect for a prostitute who does it with every guy, or someone like you who is waiting for someone who means something to do it with? I'm 18 year old male and I'm still a virgin. I know how you feel you feel like I'm 18 everyone I know is doing it, but I really want it to mean something when I do it I don't want it to be with some prostitute.

This is your sex life, not anyone else's; take all the time you need. There are male virgins around over the age of eighteen - more and more guys are seeing that virginity is not something that should just be precious to the woman, and are waiting to meet someone special.
Much love and happiness to you.

This is your sex life, not anyone else's; take all the time you need. There are male virgins around over the age of eighteen - more and more guys are seeing that virginity is not something that should just be precious to the woman, and are waiting to meet someone special.
Much love and happiness to you.

Don't feel pressured dear u dnt hav 2 do evrything others do.b urself & if u r waitin 4 a special sum1 jus wait & b proud u r not a slut & u r not havin sex with every1 u meet. Sex is special so jus hold on.no need 2 rush...it was here b4 u wer born, stil here now & wil b here wen u die. Sex aint goin nowhere so dnt hav 2 run after it.keep ur cool honey.

wait do it when ur in love dont be in a hurry u will reget it

yeah im kind of having the same problem except im 20. ive dated in the past but nothing ever really worked out. and i can def say that im not ugly either. lol things just havent fallen into place for me.

but unlike you, i dont really care if my first is a virgin or not. most guys over 18 arent virgins, so i cant even consider finding a virgin guy. but it's fine with. as long as they love me, and i love them.

but i also feel pressure because a lot of my grilfriends talk about sex and they can always read that cosmo magazine for real (bc they get to do taht stuff in there with their bfs)...and then there is just me...and i dont feel like a real woman yet and it's killing me inside.

i dont know what to do either, bc im waiting for my special someone also.

1. The only one who is pressuring you is yourself. Calm down and wait til you find someone again you want to have sex with.

2. It is not impossible to find a male over 18 who is a virgin

3. You don't necessarily want a virgin to be your first sexual encounter. You might want someone a little more experienced to help guide you and support you through the process. An experienced lover could give you a better first experience as well.

4. Sex does not always = Love. So be able to tell the difference between a sexual experience and a loving experience. You already had a sexless loving experience - you may have others. You will also have loveless sexual experiences in your future, but mostly a combination of both - love and sex - in a variety of proportions.

5. Because of #4, do NOT fall in love with someone just b/c you have sex with them.

6. Re-read #1.

I think there are lots of guys of 18 and over who are virgins. I've known men in their late 20s who were virgins, because they hadn't met the right person yet. And these were attractive, intelligent men who did eventually meet the right woman and are now living happily ever after.

I think it might help if you keep an open mind about how much (in)experience your first lover should have. If you meet someone and fall in love, you might not mind so much if he has a sexual history. How you feel about each other in the present matters so much more than things either of you have felt or done in the past.

Good luck!

Personally I would advise you to wait till marriage its much easier and if you think of it if you ever get in a relationship and you explain to your bf/gf that you're waiting till marriage you can be sure of who really loves you or is just using you.. they might even want to stick around to try and pressure you into having sex with them if they find you that attractive.. but if you continue to show signs that your not interested they won't stick around much longer ;) I have made the choice to wait till marriage.. alot less stress, and worries. I mean c'mon teenagers? We have enough stress as it is lol... just think of how happy and impressed your husband will be with you when he finds out you saved it just for him :)