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Monday I sent some nasty texts to a guy that i've been dating. I've known him 8 months but we haven't been talking much because of college and work and things like that.
We text sometimes but recently he seems like he's only trying to sext. His texts will say "are you wet?" "or are you in bed?" and if I say "no" he says "can you be?." If I'm busy or not into it at that moment, he will just won't text me at all for a while, and when we try to talk normally, it usually turns into a conversation about sex.

So I asked him about that and he said he tried to text me the night before about Doctor Who, but I was asleep. The text said "are you in bed?". So I basically called him a liar, and accused him of only talking about sex. I don't really believe that he's only interested in sex, and he's usually a really nice, and fun guy when we're able to see each other, but I was angry because I wanted him to talk to me normally.

I haven't been able to talk to him because he blocked me on facebook and isn't answering his phone. He may have even blocked my number. I'm not sure. I've only tried calling him once since Monday.

I feel like I was unreasonable and I want to apologize. I could try sending him an email or a voicemail, but I'm not sure he would bother reading or listening to it. I also have his home address, so I could send him a "sorry" card with a note, but I don't want to seem stalkerish.


Anyway, the stuff I said was really mean, and I didn't mean most of it. He got really angry, and I think I really hurt him. I know he still might not want to talk to me anymore because I was being ridiculous but I just want to make sure he knows that I don't really think he did anything wrong and that I'm sorry for the things I said.

It's too late. You have hurt his male pride.

He sounds like a jerk - I would have responded the same as you. You don't need or deserve people like that in your life. You were correct with your instincts and acted accordingly.

Let him go - have self respect and be with someone who appreciates you

He owes you an apology, no the other way around.

He sounds like a jerk - I would have responded the same as you. You don't need or deserve people like that in your life. You were correct with your instincts and acted accordingly.

Let him go - have self respect and be with someone who appreciates you

He owes you an apology, no the other way around.

Let it go ....When you get involved with pigs you get dirty.

Actually he practically begged for it with his silly adolescent manners. But sending a card with a short apology for what you feel was exaggerated anger is not stalking. It is what it is! An apology. Please keep it to one sentence - he really was a jerk.

first off, dont send him a letter. that does seem kind of stalkarish.. and if he likes you as much as he says he does then why would he just drop u like that because u said u didnt want to talk about sex all the time? i dont kno u but there can only be two answers to this. either, he is very insecure about who he is and in order to not get close to u is just fool around, thats what he is gooana do, and u may feel like he is disrespecting u and taking u forgranted or just plain out hurting you, but he isnt meaning it,he is trying not to get hurt himself, he is probably really sensitive about relationships and people probably left him alot, so he probably got fed up, changed who he was and acts like this now!

And then he left because he probably cant believe u would say things like that about him, either if u didnt mean it or not, u still thought of something bad that would suit him best. so u picked the worse thing to get into his skin... not good.

The other answer can be that he just wants u for ur body and yeah he thinks ur hot, just like all the other girls he is talking to when not talking to u. he is probably talking dirty to alot of different people just having manly stupid fun. and he is tryin to pick which one is worth it and which one is just a hit and run. he doesnt kno wat he wants and he prob doesnt kno how to be with an amazing girl like u so he screws up. but u yelling at him makes him feel less sure of what he wants now. and plus, ur making him feel like ur unhappy, and men dont want to think there making the woman unhappy, it makes them feel less manly.

If he refuses to have a normal conversation with you when you asked him to repeatedly, then yes, he is acting like a jerk and a pig.

He blocked you on your social sites and does not answer your calls. He apparently is also very childish as well.

If he blocked you on facebook... I'd be inclined to say the relationship is over. Maybe find someone to date who you can have a REAL relationship with, not just a text relationship?

You can't have it both ways, either it's sexting or not, you're giving him mixed messages, make up your mind and then apologize.