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I have never been turned on by sexual intercourse. I find porno repulsive and never got much of a thrill from intercourse. I masturbate about 3-4 times a week, but I only imagine a few fetishes that have nothing to do with sex at all. I won't bother listing them here because its getting off the point, but I'll just say it has nothing to do with BDSM (since that's what most people automatically assume the term 'fetishes' means), nor is it anything illegal.

I don’t want to limit myself to the people I’m sexually compatible with. They are few and far between and sexual gratification is much less important to me than finding someone I like being around.

Understand that while I say I don’t derive pleasure from sexual intercourse, that doesn’t mean I have impotence problems nor that the act repulses me to the point where I cannot perform it. Either the girls I did have sex with were both really polite and good at acting, or I know what I’m doing because I turned them on.

Just to head off a few answers before opening this up to you guys…

1) Please don’t tell me to 'seek counseling'. Counseling cannot change a person's sexual nature, and it's kind of a lazy answer to give anyway (like telling someone asking for diet advice to quit eating Twinkies).

2) No, I’m not secretly gay. I think when you are gay or bi, you pretty much know it, whether you want to admit it to yourself or others.

3) Please don’t suggest that I either find a girl who doesn’t like sex or to expect that the right girl will understand. Sex is an integral part of a romantic relationship.

The best answer I can think of is to simply fake sexual enjoyment in order to obtain what I really want, a long-term relationship with someone I like.

Well you typed a lot of words telling us what NOT to suggest (that had nothing to do with your actual question anyway) so I'll just answer your subject question and be done with it.

Yes, you can still date.

I'll take your 'best answer' idea and contradict it. You should never fake a sexual interest to get a long term relationship, you won't be able to pull it off.

The first half of your third point, for which you have already dismissed for some reason, is the correct one. Sex is only an integral part of a romantic relationship when it's of value to you.
It's not for you obviously.. Find someone with a similar appetite.

If you don't like actual intercourse and you get into a relationship with someone who does, how long do you think you can fake the interest before your true feelings show or you start resenting the relationship.

Go out, date, be honest and maybe you will find someone who wants very little sex out of a relationship. If the other qualities are the same, boom, long term relationship.