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Ok so to reiterate on a question I have asked prior to this one, and it's kind of an extension of it so please read the entire question.
My wife whom I have been married to for five years, sine the begging this were very rocky and have gone from bad to worse. We have tried marraige counseling and that made things worse. I have attempted to work on the problematic areas I have though she has not.

We have recently separated and she is with her mom and family out of state and I remain at home.

She bragged about how neat and clean she was/is however that turned out to be not true. She also said that personal hygiene was the highest impotence to her how ever she rarely showers, let alone keeps other things clean. Because of a lot of this our kids are in a court appointed guardianship, and this because of her since she was the primary caregiver.

Now in the five years we have been married she has not held or had a job. And the entire financial burden was placed on my shoulders. I have had steady work for the five years we have been married, yet with encouragement she was asked to clean the house and find work. Nome of this was done even in a positive light with praise and caring.

I cannot trust her at all not that she cheated because she has not but the little lies she tells get bigger and bigger and because of this we lost our place we were living at in just two short months. The story as to why is way to long.

Now that we are separated I feel happy yet she is making this all my fault though she had her hand in the cookie jar as well, sure I have made some mistakes along the way but I have bit the bullet and made my amends while she burnt more bridges.

My question is this,
Do I seek divorce or do I remain in hell? This relationship is not a healthy one not just for me but the kids as well.

Any and all advice is worth reading.

Thank you

Ok so to reiterate on a question I have asked prior to this one, and it's kind of an extension of it so please read the entire question.
My wife whom I have been married to for five years, sine the begging this were very rocky and have gone from bad to worse. We have tried marraige counseling and that made things worse. I have attempted to work on the problematic areas I have though she has not.

We have recently separated and she is with her mom and family out of state and I remain at home.

She bragged about how neat and clean she was/is however that turned out to be not true. She also said that personal hygiene was the highest impotence to her how ever she rarely showers, let alone keeps other things clean. Because of a lot of this our kids are in a court appointed guardianship, and this because of her since she was the primary caregiver.

Now in the five years we have been married she has not held or had a job. And the entire financial burden was placed on my shoulders. I have had steady work for the five years we have been married, yet with encouragement she was asked to clean the house and find work. Nome of this was done even in a positive light with praise and caring.

I cannot trust her at all not that she cheated because she has not but the little lies she tells get bigger and bigger and because of this we lost our place we were living at in just two short months. The story as to why is way to long.

Now that we are separated I feel happy yet she is making this all my fault though she had her hand in the cookie jar as well, sure I have made some mistakes along the way but I have bit the bullet and made my amends while she burnt more bridges.

My question is this,
Do I seek divorce or do I remain in hell? This relationship is not a healthy one not just for me but the kids as well.

Any and all advice is worth reading.

Thank you

Ok so to reiterate on a question I have asked prior to this one, and it's kind of an extension of it so please read the entire question.
My wife whom I have been married to for five years, sine the begging this were very rocky and have gone from bad to worse. We have tried marraige counseling and that made things worse. I have attempted to work on the problematic areas I have though she has not.

We have recently separated and she is with her mom and family out of state and I remain at home.

She bragged about how neat and clean she was/is however that turned out to be not true. She also said that personal hygiene was the highest impotence to her how ever she rarely showers, let alone keeps other things clean. Because of a lot of this our kids are in a court appointed guardianship, and this because of her since she was the primary caregiver.

Now in the five years we have been married she has not held or had a job. And the entire financial burden was placed on my shoulders. I have had steady work for the five years we have been married, yet with encouragement she was asked to clean the house and find work. Nome of this was done even in a positive light with praise and caring.

I cannot trust her at all not that she cheated because she has not but the little lies she tells get bigger and bigger and because of this we lost our place we were living at in just two short months. The story as to why is way to long.

Now that we are separated I feel happy yet she is making this all my fault though she had her hand in the cookie jar as well, sure I have made some mistakes along the way but I have bit the bullet and made my amends while she burnt more bridges.

My question is this,
Do I seek divorce or do I remain in hell? This relationship is not a healthy one not just for me but the kids as well.

Any and all advice is worth reading.

Thank you

Ok so to reiterate on a question I have asked prior to this one, and it's kind of an extension of it so please read the entire question.
My wife whom I have been married to for five years, sine the begging this were very rocky and have gone from bad to worse. We have tried marraige counseling and that made things worse. I have attempted to work on the problematic areas I have though she has not.

We have recently separated and she is with her mom and family out of state and I remain at home.

She bragged about how neat and clean she was/is however that turned out to be not true. She also said that personal hygiene was the highest impotence to her how ever she rarely showers, let alone keeps other things clean. Because of a lot of this our kids are in a court appointed guardianship, and this because of her since she was the primary caregiver.

Now in the five years we have been married she has not held or had a job. And the entire financial burden was placed on my shoulders. I have had steady work for the five years we have been married, yet with encouragement she was asked to clean the house and find work. Nome of this was done even in a positive light with praise and caring.

I cannot trust her at all not that she cheated because she has not but the little lies she tells get bigger and bigger and because of this we lost our place we were living at in just two short months. The story as to why is way to long.

Now that we are separated I feel happy yet she is making this all my fault though she had her hand in the cookie jar as well, sure I have made some mistakes along the way but I have bit the bullet and made my amends while she burnt more bridges.

My question is this,
Do I seek divorce or do I remain in hell? This relationship is not a healthy one not just for me but the kids as well.

Any and all advice is worth reading.

Thank you

Ok so to reiterate on a question I have asked prior to this one, and it's kind of an extension of it so please read the entire question.
My wife whom I have been married to for five years, sine the begging this were very rocky and have gone from bad to worse. We have tried marraige counseling and that made things worse. I have attempted to work on the problematic areas I have though she has not.

We have recently separated and she is with her mom and family out of state and I remain at home.

She bragged about how neat and clean she was/is however that turned out to be not true. She also said that personal hygiene was the highest impotence to her how ever she rarely showers, let alone keeps other things clean. Because of a lot of this our kids are in a court appointed guardianship, and this because of her since she was the primary caregiver.

Now in the five years we have been married she has not held or had a job. And the entire financial burden was placed on my shoulders. I have had steady work for the five years we have been married, yet with encouragement she was asked to clean the house and find work. Nome of this was done even in a positive light with praise and caring.

I cannot trust her at all not that she cheated because she has not but the little lies she tells get bigger and bigger and because of this we lost our place we were living at in just two short months. The story as to why is way to long.

Now that we are separated I feel happy yet she is making this all my fault though she had her hand in the cookie jar as well, sure I have made some mistakes along the way but I have bit the bullet and made my amends while she burnt more bridges.

My question is this,
Do I seek divorce or do I remain in hell? This relationship is not a healthy one not just for me but the kids as well.

Any and all advice is worth reading.

Thank you

I do not believe in remaining in hell, not if you can help it. Dont worry about the kids as kids will adjust to most situations. If you are happy seperated then I would think about your future, if you feel divorce is the best step then go for it.

Ok so to reiterate on a question I have asked prior to this one, and it's kind of an extension of it so please read the entire question.
My wife whom I have been married to for five years, sine the begging this were very rocky and have gone from bad to worse. We have tried marraige counseling and that made things worse. I have attempted to work on the problematic areas I have though she has not.

We have recently separated and she is with her mom and family out of state and I remain at home.

She bragged about how neat and clean she was/is however that turned out to be not true. She also said that personal hygiene was the highest impotence to her how ever she rarely showers, let alone keeps other things clean. Because of a lot of this our kids are in a court appointed guardianship, and this because of her since she was the primary caregiver.

Now in the five years we have been married she has not held or had a job. And the entire financial burden was placed on my shoulders. I have had steady work for the five years we have been married, yet with encouragement she was asked to clean the house and find work. Nome of this was done even in a positive light with praise and caring.

I cannot trust her at all not that she cheated because she has not but the little lies she tells get bigger and bigger and because of this we lost our place we were living at in just two short months. The story as to why is way to long.

Now that we are separated I feel happy yet she is making this all my fault though she had her hand in the cookie jar as well, sure I have made some mistakes along the way but I have bit the bullet and made my amends while she burnt more bridges.

My question is this,
Do I seek divorce or do I remain in hell? This relationship is not a healthy one not just for me but the kids as well.

Any and all advice is worth reading.

Thank you

Ok so to reiterate on a question I have asked prior to this one, and it's kind of an extension of it so please read the entire question.
My wife whom I have been married to for five years, sine the begging this were very rocky and have gone from bad to worse. We have tried marraige counseling and that made things worse. I have attempted to work on the problematic areas I have though she has not.

We have recently separated and she is with her mom and family out of state and I remain at home.

She bragged about how neat and clean she was/is however that turned out to be not true. She also said that personal hygiene was the highest impotence to her how ever she rarely showers, let alone keeps other things clean. Because of a lot of this our kids are in a court appointed guardianship, and this because of her since she was the primary caregiver.

Now in the five years we have been married she has not held or had a job. And the entire financial burden was placed on my shoulders. I have had steady work for the five years we have been married, yet with encouragement she was asked to clean the house and find work. Nome of this was done even in a positive light with praise and caring.

I cannot trust her at all not that she cheated because she has not but the little lies she tells get bigger and bigger and because of this we lost our place we were living at in just two short months. The story as to why is way to long.

Now that we are separated I feel happy yet she is making this all my fault though she had her hand in the cookie jar as well, sure I have made some mistakes along the way but I have bit the bullet and made my amends while she burnt more bridges.

My question is this,
Do I seek divorce or do I remain in hell? This relationship is not a healthy one not just for me but the kids as well.

Any and all advice is worth reading.

Thank you

Try reading the book, "stop your divorce."

Edit: Kids do NOT adjust to divorce, these people are insane, don't listen to them. They do not speak from experience.

Try reading the book, "stop your divorce."

Edit: Kids do NOT adjust to divorce, these people are insane, don't listen to them. They do not speak from experience.