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So.. I have tried using condoms. Masterbation before sex (I hate masterbating). Cock rings and basically everything else. Nothing works.

But I'm thinking perhaps it has to do somthing with my vasectamy I got? Maybe during surgury the doctor messed up on somthing? Is that possible? I'm 21 now. And got the vasectamy when I was 19. And I've been having sex since last november. And now my relationship is on the line.

What are my options? Or I'm I just hopless at sex? And I should just stop doing it all together

So.. I have tried using condoms. Masterbation before sex (I hate masterbating). Cock rings and basically everything else. Nothing works.

But I'm thinking perhaps it has to do somthing with my vasectamy I got? Maybe during surgury the doctor messed up on somthing? Is that possible? I'm 21 now. And got the vasectamy when I was 19. And I've been having sex since last november. And now my relationship is on the line.

What are my options? Or I'm I just hopless at sex? And I should just stop doing it all together

The vasectomy has nothing to do with this. It's in your head; you're getting so worked up about the imminent sex that it stimulates you so you explode as soon as you penetrate.

First stop: save your relationship with cunnilingus. Remember, the pea is at the top of the pod, not deep down inside, and keep the pressure slow, firm, and steady no matter how much she squirms around, until she lets you know she's had enough.

Then, you need to teach yourself how to delay your own orgasm. How do you do that? Practice, practice, practice.

This isn't so awful, now is it?

Practice with yourself first. Take some time to monitor how the sensations increase in intensity while you masturbate. Learn what your body's signals for imminent ejaculation are. Teach yourself how to prolong the experience -- which will have the benefit of increasing your enjoyment of it.

Practice with a partner next. Armed with the knowledge of how to prolong a session with yourself, pay attention to how you feel while you're with your partner and use your techniques learned while masturbating to help control your speed, intensity, and rhythm so that you can last longer with her. It's okay to slow down and to tell her that you want it to last longer because you love being with her so much. She'll probably react well to that; if she's like the women I've been with she'll take it as a challenge to try and bring you off fast while you try and prolong it. That's a fun battle to have.

Practice focusing on your partner's orgasm last. Now that you know how to keep your erection working without ejaculating for a relatively long time. Make the focus of your efforts be giving her the most intense orgasms you can. Learn about her body and her preferences, and find ways to satisfy them and more. Your own orgasm will fall into place by then. Now, you're cooking with gas and you will have a happy lover and thrilling sex.

i've been there

1) you need to learn some ejaculation control basics and exercises to physically and mentally be able to last longer

2) you need to learn techniques to make a female orgasm, in order to know what it takes to make her ***, so that you concentrate more on technique, instead of lasting longer

See a doctor. Maybe a urologist.

Oh honey, you're not hopeless. If your partner can't deal that isn't your fault. Yes I get why its put a strain on things but there are things you can do to make it last longer. Have you tried a lot of playing first. There's much more to sex than just poppin' it in. I really recommend a sex play book it may sound dumb but it worked for my husband and I. Like I said there is a lot more to sex, foreplay is a wonderful way to please yourself and your partner without cumming so fast. play on the outside of the vagina with your penis. Its close to intercourse but instead of being inside the head of your penis should be rubbing against her clit. It feels amazing to her and hopefully not as amazing to you but still good.

Good Luck

Hello,

Two things to clear up first;
1) Vasectomy has nothing to do with it
2) You do not suck in bed. You just have an issue to deal with.

I agree with one other answer in that you can start by pleasuring your girlfriend during sex. She will not care if you last 3 seconds or 1 hour as long as long as you pleasure her first using oral sex and your hands.

Then, to tackle your problem you have several long term options and several quick fixes.

The quick fixes I suggest are in an article I wrote on the subject 4 years ago which has had over 1 million views (see the source below on searchwarp.com).

Then for longer term solutions you have many options ranging from delay creams, long last condoms, self hypnosis, subliminal messages, exercises and more. This link is also in the resource box and is my own web site.

The reason I am so interested in the subject and have websites on it is that I used to be the same and only last 20 seconds or so. Now it is my choice when to ejaculate.

The two top tips I recommend for immediate use are just before you reach the 'point of no return' either 1) pull your balls down away from your body (not too hard) or 2) push your body downwards and outwards as if you are pushing for a bowel movement and tensing your stomach.

Just remember that this thing is curable and your girlfriend will be far less bothered if you please her first. If she is still bothered then perhaps she is too shallow for you in the first place.

Good luck.