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BQ: have you talked to your kids about sex? How often?

Unfortunately, teens are not the only ones who cannot understand the emotional aspect of sexual relationships. Or do you believe that we live in a balanced world?

Too many mistakes are originated by human ignorance and indifference, while we live in an absurd world where moral principals are not respected by anyone.

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Now, I believe that you must tell this mother who is afraid to talk about sexual relationships to her son that she has the moral obligation to open his eyes, and help him understand a few basic things, which are very important for his own safety.

On the other hand, why should she be afraid to talk to her son about sex, or any other subject? What is so wrong about talking with a boy about sex? This is not as complicated as she may believe. She should be her son’s friend, and talk to him the same way she would talk to a man who had her age.

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Congratulations for helping your cousin. Keep helping him, as if he was your son. This is your moral obligation, since you understand that he needs guidance, while he is not being helped by anyone.

My son is 26 years old now, but I always talked about sex with him whenever he wanted to, or whenever he would have problems with a girlfriend. My husband died when he was 4 years old, so he didn’t have a father near him. Fortunately his grandfather and his uncles were very helpful, but his father’s absence still was a problem he had to deal with.

I helped him overcome his depression through dream therapy when he was betrayed by one of his girlfriends. He never had a relationship with a good girl; he had only problematic relationships with girls that would easily accept sex. This is what most boys desire, and my son is very attractive. So, many girls were ready to do everything for him.

We had many conversations; many times he didn’t accept my advice because his ideas were totally different, but even without accepting them, at least he would listen to my points of view and think about them later.

Take care!

I think they realize it once they've experienced it. Pop culture makes sex seem like a very casual affair that can be over and done with and forgotten right away (if you aren't looking for a commitment).

Although that is a possible way to handle sex, its not realistic that someone just begin to take part in sexual activities could handle it in such a way, but they don't necessarily know that. Some do, some don't, and because of that the teenage dramas go on and on.


**I'm a young adult by the way, talking about what I've experienced personally, and observed in friends/peers/family/etc. My parents talked about sex at different times in my life, whether it was "the talk" or when I was older and nearing opportunities to have sex when they would advise on using contraceptives and making smart decisions due to how sex can effect relationships.

I think they realize it once they've experienced it. Pop culture makes sex seem like a very casual affair that can be over and done with and forgotten right away (if you aren't looking for a commitment).

Although that is a possible way to handle sex, its not realistic that someone just begin to take part in sexual activities could handle it in such a way, but they don't necessarily know that. Some do, some don't, and because of that the teenage dramas go on and on.


**I'm a young adult by the way, talking about what I've experienced personally, and observed in friends/peers/family/etc. My parents talked about sex at different times in my life, whether it was "the talk" or when I was older and nearing opportunities to have sex when they would advise on using contraceptives and making smart decisions due to how sex can effect relationships.

Do adults? You cant teach anyone how to understand the emotional aspect of sex because everyone's emotional response is different, and individual to their own experience. While I dont think mum should hand over a box of condoms to her 14 year old without talking to him about sex first, I can see where she's coming from. If your kid is having sex at 14, keep him safe above all else.

I sure as hell didn't. I was rapped at 13, didn't get help,& that sent me off the deep around. I slept around, not gonna lie. It helped me dull the pain. I did a lot of stuff that helped me dull the pain, but only for a little while.
I'm in therapy now. so I can deal with my past so much better. But no, I would say teens don't. Sex is grown-up stuff. Not kid stuff. You can't fully understand it, until your in love.
ETA- Not yet. She's only 15 months.

Has anyone ever understood it before having sex? You find out after you have sex. That's how it works. Sometimes sex is just sex. It's not always a mind blowing spiritual experience that strengthens your relationship. Even in a marriage, sometimes it's just sex.

They're too young for specifics, but for now they know it takes a mom and a daddy to make a baby and that our dog had surgery so he can't make any puppies. They also know clinical terms for genitals.

Some do, yes. Most do not. I was told from a very young age that sex is the physical expression of love and that it would be more enjoyable for me if it was reserved for expressing that feeling and not taken lightly.

No, I don't believe so. Most are still immature. (not all) but most are. When I was a teen I was in love and I understood. I am still with the same person 6 years later... and No to your 2nd question, my son is only 17 months..

I think it depends on the person whether there is an emotional aspect to sex. I'm 29 years old and had sex many times without being emotionally attached to the person.

No one can fully understand the emotional aspect of sex until it happens to them and then it's different for everyone. Teens are not known as forward thinking creatures.